Deep condolences

Lagi pengen cerita aja hari ini karena masih dalam suasana berduka yang dalam…

Jadi adek aku punya papa mertua itu sejak bulan puasa jatuh sakit, ya sakit ringan gitu sih gejalanya kayak mual males makan, dan sekeluarga mereka gak ada yang aware kalo itu sakit serius karena pikir cuma maag, trus belakangan kayak bengkak di tumit, trus di utek2 lah itu bengkaknya, eh numbuh lagi, sampe akhirnya hari sabtu lalu jatuh 2x, papanya itu tipe bapack2 yang tinggi besar gitu hahahaha.. jadi mereka sampe kerepotan angkat si papa ke mobil buat ke RS.

Pas udah pingsan yg ke 3x brati mereka lsg buru2 ke RS Polri rujukan BPJS hari sabtu malem jam 10an..

Paginya hari minggu jam 8 kita baru di kabarin masuk UGD, kita agak bingung kok cuma sakit bengkak di kaki bisa sampe ke UGD, posisi waktu itu belum sadar, sampe jam 12an mungkin ya baru sadar karena antibiotik.

Lalu dikabarin lagi sekitar jam 7 malem kalo si Papa gak sadar lagi ketika di mintain surat persetujuan utk suntik obat, and jam 9 kurang di kabarin kalo si Papa udah gak ada.

Kami sebagai keluarga outer circle shock, karena kayaknya gak mungkin pergi secepat itu… diagnosa dokter terakhir itu gagal ginjal.

Sedih banget, rasanya kayak kecolongan, padahal kalo mau di periksain pasti bisa sembuh tuh si Papa, cuman kata adekku sih Papanya orangnya tipe yang gak mau ke dokter, jadi susah banget diajak periksa.

Namanya udah Takdir Tuhan ya, akhirnya di panggil secepat itu dalam usia 60thn, buat yang kenal sama almarhum, mohon di bukakan pintu maaf sebesar besarnya & doain semoga amal ibadah beliau diterima disisi Allah & dibukakan pintu surga.

Amin.

 

Btw buat kalian semua yang masih punya orang tua, diatas 55than mungkin emang udah waktunya tiap tahun kalian ikutin medical checkup tahunan, biar ketahuan kalo ada sakit2 apa gitu bisa langsung di obatin, ini juga aku kecolongan si Ibu ternyata cancer tanpa symtom apapun huhuhu  ( ibu aku ini jg tipe2 orang yang gak pernah sakit sih sebelumnya )

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Half of 2020 has Passed…

What can i say but Alhamdulilah eventhou 2020 still hard for us.

I wanna share stories about my Mom in law ( MIL )

Inhale exhale…. fyuh..

When the covid starts end of march in Indonesia, nobody dare to go outside , and all shopping centre was closed – so thats my MIL has nowhere to go – safety place – but our house.

She came around 2-3x times per week just to chit chat with me and my husband . coz so boring stay at home right ? she’s a tipical person who love outdoor activites, from monday to sunday she has lots of activites like mengaji, gym, and going to pasar mayestik  – buy some material for her works ( my mom has small boutique – they create Kebaya custom for wedding or batik2 uniform for wedding ).

I remember, it was around mid June, when she sitting at the bed – under the lamp, but she’s look so pale, i just wanna asked if she’s sick or not, but forget coz she’s seems ok.

then the next day my sis in law send me whatsapp, said that mom got bloody urine, not once but several times, at the day i was busy shopping for my online shop ( plz indonesia ) then we immediately rushed to my MIL house.

She already met the doctor when we arrived, said that something wrong with the kidney, i was so affraid at that time, you know that gagal ginjal – will need cuci darah right ?

after 3 days taking the medicine, she said that it wont better, still have bloody urine, then the hospital suggest her to met Urologist – diffrent hospital, at suyoto ( near my mil house < oh btw she’s using BPJS facility > . After some lab check and xray, by end of June, the doctor said there is Tumor inside her bladder . Musti diangkat as soon as possible .

sedihnya is, when my mom told about it, she just post the news at family group whatsapp, sedih sekali gak ada yang nemenin ke dokter pas dibacain diagnose. Yaudahlah skip skip then she was schedule for an operation by Jul 2. Jadi hasil operasi tsb dibawa ke lab for pathology analizye dong, it takes around 7 days to see the result. But udah semingguan lebih ternyata result beloman ada, then akhirnya mid july, 2weeks itu baru ada result . Waktu itu my Dad in law (DIL ) immediately contact my husband. And he reaction just.. hm, ya oke, oh gitu… when i asked

it is : cancer kata Ayah.

oke skip skip … we are immediately going to MIL house and baca tuh hasil patologinya… bentar namanya itu : UROTHELIAL BLADDER CARCINOMA : high grade.

i try to find any information from google about this… skip skip…trus mom diminta CT Scan lagi utk cek hasil operasinya kemarin, but this time she needs to go to RSAL Mintohardjo – itu sekitar tanggal 20an juli kemarin. Hasil CT Scan sekitar 3 harian, kalo menurut dokter Urologi sih udah bersih – tapi utk membaca hasil ct scan yang lebih akurat , dr urologi menyarankan ketemu dr radiologi hari rabu ( waktu itu ketemu dokter urologinya hari senin kl ga salah ).

Skip skip… tgl 29 july mereka pegang hasil dari radiologi – kesimpulan dalam selembar kertas, yang mudah di mengerti orang awam, tidak adanya pembesaran di hepar, kantung empeduk usus,, limpa pankreas dll….

my mil again posting at our small family group, and said alhamdulilah its fine, all good! and everybody be lyke, oh thank God its good news.

but.. i read something that makes me thrilled … staging T2bN0M0

buru2 kontak Gina ( my neighbour – sebelumnya juga udah sempet tanya2 sama dia ) dia baru bales setelah my MIL ketemu dokter urologi and yes.. its confirm cancer bladder, and she need to go to Dharmais for chemoteraphy.
Sad..

my mom as i told you, dia orang yang paling aktif, kalo anak2nya sakit, kita selalu di omelin suruh olah raga, beliau bukan tipe orang yang suka jajan2 makanan sampah kayak somay, cilok gitu, gak makan micin, but why kok bisa cancer ? kita sih menduganya karena beliau bekerja dengan bahan2 textile, kamu tahu kan kalo ke toko bahan kalo yg gak biasa , mata suka pedih dan bau ? nah bayangkan my mom works with it for almost 30 years….. sampe mungkin dia udah kebal sama bau kimia2 pengawet textile.

Skip skip… jadi minggu lalu akhirnya gue nemenin MIL ( selama ini kalo ke dokter akhirnya di temenin my husband ), utk ke Dharmais ketemu dokter. And he said its stage 1-2 ( Padahal jelas di surat radiologi T2B ).. so by Aug 13, she need to get rid of the sisa2 cancer yang kemarin sudah di operasi oleh dr urologi.

Pls doakan beliau kuat, sepertinya juga my mom nggak ngerti kalo di kemo itu bakalan suffer . Saat ini kondisi dia super sehat – even abis operasipun juga keliatan sehat dan gak ada keluhan, makanya apa kita gak shock denger vonis cancer. My Dad very worried about it, dia bilang yang gak merasa sakit itu justru malah sakit yang paling bahaya. oh ya fyi selama ini kami tuh fokus ke kesehatan my dad karena ybs baru di vonis diabetes around 6 -8 months ago….

I will update you soon after she performed her 2nd surgery.

Doakan yah…

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